We are told children are resilient and will adapt far quicker than adults. But do they really have any choice in the matter?
We believe our child will have no problems making new friends and seem excited at the prospect pf a new school.
But is that true?
A child who has formed strong ties and friendships at school will certainly not want to leave them.
Where possible, keep this part of their lives in tack by trying, to keep the child at the same school when you shift house. It’s not always possible but is something else to add the list of considerations when looking for your next home.
It may mean they have to catch a bus, and for younger children you may have to drive and pick them up every day, but it is a small price to pay for their well being both physically and mentally.
Their mental health and love of life could certainly be compromised after leaving all that has been familiar to them for so many years, their neighbourhood, even the shops they know, their sports team mates, their classmates, Aunts, grandmothers, cousins, family get together every week, all this can change when you move so when you think about it, a child is probably more damaged than an adult. Studies have shown that moving as a child shapes who you become as an adult.
If it is impossible for a child to stay at the same school, today’s communication tools can make it easy for them to talk and see their friends every day, while forging new friendships at school.
They will delight introducing their new friends to old mates on many of their devices or on Skype, and slowly, over time, they will settle in and feel secure again.
This is totally another story. It has been proven that children who move to a new house and/or schools every year or so are far less likely to reach the same academic level as others who are more stable in-home security.
Even though every school must follow a curriculum as to what is being taught, all teachers teach this differently and at different speeds.
While a child may be up to date at one school they may find themselves either way in front or way behind their class mates at another, the latter causing much stress on a child who is already trying to cope with their new surroundings.
Parents in a very good financial position may decide that boarding school will give the child the stability they need in these circumstances, but it has also been shown that children who spend most of their school years away from their parents never have the same bond with family members as those who live permanently at home.
All this said, everyone’s circumstances differ and all you can do as a parent is weigh up to pros and cons to reach a decision that is, in your opinion the best option for the welfare of your child or children.
If the house is too small, can you afford and is there enough section to add a room or two.
Next time you are thinking of moving, if children are going to another school next year, Intermediate or High School perhaps wait till then. While his mates may not be going to the same school, your child will certainly find there are lots of other children who know no one, and friendships will be quickly formed.
Hope you have enjoyed this article,
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